Unexpected Places
I am just starting to get over a pretty nasty fever that has lasted since Wednesday evening. I am feeling much better, except for my back. My back is so sore right now, from coughing, shivering and vomiting pretty much non-stop for the last 3 days. When you are sick it is easy to get down in the dumps about other aspects of your life as well.
All I want from life at this moment in time is a backrub. Yet this appears to be a lot to ask. The truth of the matter is, I do not have anyone in my life at the moment who is interested in giving me a backrub. Not anyone close by enough to be a real option, at least.
So, after thinking about it for a while I realized that maybe some stretching would help my back. I took a long deep stretch and it helped for a second. I decided to ask my brother if he would join me in some Yoga in the morning. I explained how my back is killing me and how I thought some exercise might help.
He agreed and then went on to surprise me. My brother went into his room and dug out his old heating pad that I had completely forgotten that he owns. He recommended I plug it in and lie down for a bit.
It was not a backrub, but I have to say, this gesture was huge for me this evening. I was starting to get all sad about the fact that I would not be receiving any backrubs in the near future. I was forgetting that Love is easy. I was forgetting that Love appears in many forms. Sometimes touch. Sometimes simply in the form of an idea.
My back feels much better now, thanks to my brother. I would not have thought of that without him. Love is easy, it turns out. You just have to talk. And be willing to receive.
I may not get to lie down next to my lover tonight, or get that backrub I wanted so bad. But I did receive Love and for that my back feels much better. My heart feels a little better too.
Love can come in so many forms. A touch, a word, a feeling or an act of kindness like your brothers. In our media driven world sometimes we forget that there is love and understanding all around us if we slow down and look for it. I sometimes feel like others do not understand me and love me the way I want but then remember that love can come in ways that we don’t always understand at the time we are looking for it.
Glad you’re feeling better and if you need a rub … come visit this week.
I want to come visit soon. It is starting to get nicer outside…
As a chronic pain sufferer with spinal injuries, I can attest to the power of the hot bath! When your back is sore, get into a tub with water a little hotter than the hottest you can handle, and stay in there, stretching your back constantly, until the water has cooled. A glass of wine will help you to have a nap afterwards!
Thanks Marc,
I really appreciate this advice. I will try it tonight after work!
Ah, Tristan, I know the sadness of which you speak; I still experience it too, sometimes. But I believe you did exactly the best you could do in that case — reach out to someone you love, if the one you hope to love isn’t around. I pray you continue to grow in this direction, so that you will find that one someday.
I wish I was there to give you a backrub. Tell your brother “Mom says” to give you s backrub!
lol. thanks mom.
Oh Tristan, I understand you SOOO well. I am in the exact the same position and wishing for love and companionship. I have been unwell lately both physically and emotionally and the hard thing is to feel so lonely. That when you need that understanding ear, or in your case a loving backrub, there is just no-one there. I guess it is a life lesson I must learn or a survival skill, I really don’t know but I will get my love and strength from God, from the universe.
Get well soon, and I’m glad you found that help from your brother. Love comes in many forms. 🙂
It helps knowing we are never alone, even in our loneliness. If you ever need someone to chat to, you know where to find me.
Thanks! I will, and the same to you if you need someone to talk to I’m here with open heart.
hope u feel better. what a great picture
im glad your better
I have often felt lonely in the middle of a crowd but that was me projecting loneliness on myself. Growing up as an only child gave me a lonesome identity. An understanding and empathy for the lonely. Reaching out is all that is needed to end the feeling of being alone because there is always someone in need of companionship. It’s all up to us.
You have a wonderful, thoughtful brother. Heating pads do offer comfort and relief. Glad to hear you’re feeling better.
Yea for your heart! Yea for your back too:) This post is a lovely reminder of how easy love can be. ……….. if will allow it to be<3
receiving is the hardest part, sometimes…
Hi Tristan, have you ever had someone do reiki on you? It is wonderful for sore backs. You can also learn reiki to do on yourself. I have found it a wonderful thing to help me with healing myself when there is no one else there physically to help. It also strengthens that feeling of love. Glad your brother gave you his heat pad and you discovered there is love in many forms too. Thanks for sharing xx
Hope you are feeling better today Tristan,, and Yoga is great… I do a more gentle exercise Qi Qong. which works for me.. Dont over do the digging either .. when it comes to plant out.. Take care.. Sue