Week 7: GRATITUDE — Great big set of clues
How interesting it is that this post, which has been percolating to the surface for a few days, coincides so nicely with the 7th week of the 8 Week Challenge: Gratitude …….
Sometimes, I feel utterly at peace. Content, not feeling bereft. Desirous of nothing. At these times, I feel at ease with this idea: “Everything is perfect. And I’m doing exactly as I ‘should’ be doing.” At times like these, I feel so grateful! Gratitude surely must be radiating from me:), along with a feeling of existential success. At these times, I can truly see the opportunities for waking up, even when something is not going quite the way I wish it to. I am gentle, it is easier to be kind, I listen more carefully to the meta-communication of others. In “moments” like these, which actually sometimes last for days at a time, I am free of making comparisons between myself & others, & I can see myself & others very clearly, & yet compassionately. I think there’s a great big set of clues right there, don’t you??
Sometimes, though, I feel so far from What I Want, & desire for What I Do Not Have is nearly overwhelming. It’s not greed, exactly, as I don’t in any way wish to deprive anyone else of What They Want. I just am very aware of what is lacking in my life, & I feel so distant from ever having it. And sometimes so veryvery angry with myself for not creating the life I want, especially for feeling like I cannot create what I want. At times like these, I make a point of noting gratitude — making long lists of things I’m grateful to have, & not have. Eventually, my sense of bereft-ness, of not-having, will dissipate, & I can move back to a more balanced perspective. At times like this, I am trying to avoid the sense of just shoving the discontent from my own sight. I am trying to not just be squashing the feelings I feel I should not indulge, but rather seeing them for what they are. As all things that arise will eventually fall away, I know that the discontent will dissolve. A little act of faith, that. Sometimes, I am successful at waiting for this. Sometimes, I am not & I have the occasional little tantrum, haha. In these “moments”, which usually do not last for more than a few hours, I make copious comparisons between myself & others, between what we have & do & look like. And I always feel as if I am failing. Another huge set of clues, yes??
Chicken & egg: Gratitude feeds Contentment? or, Contentment nurtures Gratitude?? Who cares, she-says-without-having-a-clue. Who cares, she-says-with-a-chuckle-in-her-heart??? A lovely mystery, either way.
- Week 7: Gratitude (alternateeconomy.wordpress.com)
- Gratitude pays me a visit (bringingspirit.wordpress.com)
- Gratitude changes Attitude (dancingforjoy.wordpress.com)
- The Power of Thankfulness (joanyedwards.wordpress.com)
- Gratitude List (mayibe.wordpress.com)
- Discontent & Liberation (mindmindful.wordpress.com)
For me, the older I get, the more contentment and gratitude are woven into a lovely tapestry of sheer joy in creation and being alive, fully alive!
I like the way you express this: a lovely tapestry, indeed:)
Indeed we often have these feelings of unrest. Naming things we are grateful for during those times will help change your focus. Accepting yourself and your negative feelings and letting them go, is healthy. Accepting yourself and others as they are also gives you a chance to change the situations for the better from your end. Enjoy wherever you are. “It is what it is.” You are a blessing. Imagine that you are going to reach your goals, even if you take a few detours. Focus on what you want. It’ll appear.
Thanks for putting a link to my blogpost, “The Power of Thankfulness.”
Celebrate you today.
Never Give Up
Joan Y. Edwards
Great thoughts, these:) “It is what it is” often helps me step back,& see dispassionately — which opens me to humor, then compassion, then maybe being helpful. It’s all good:)
You’re absolutely right. Humor and compassion helps you let go and enjoy where you are! Keep on, keeping on. Never Give Up
Joan Y. Edwards
Thanks, back atcha:)
thanks, back atcha!
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